One lesson I have learned is that life is short and if I just sit at home and wait for my Knight in Shining Armour – it will be a really long wait and he may never turn up!!! I remember watching an Oprah show on Single Women – it was revolutionary for me – as with anything else in our lives – if we fail to plan, we plan to fail. So if we want to get married we need to prepare ourselves!!! [More on this later this month!] We are human and crushes or infatuations happen.

As one love guru says "Crushes can happen at any age. The dictionary defines crush as "a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate." So this feeling is for someone not likely to return your ardor." I love the Dating Goddess's frankness and honesty in sharing her stories especially about knitting the scarves or baking cakes for her would-be beaus. I myself would dress up then hope for him to notice. Oh well, that's quite nice too.

Once or twice I even made it to a telephone call where I mentioned something like "a few of us are catching up later at….. if you'd like to join us." Men have since told me that they do not consider that to be someone asking them out on a date and as my friends have often told me the few men over the years that I did develop a crush on that were single didn't even know about it anyway. However what happens if he seems to be into you but over time he just doesn't commit?

Well my recently single, beautiful, close friend rang me the other day, talking about the 3 P's from a book she highly recommended 'Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man'. They are Provide for, Protect and Profess that you are theirs. So if you don't have all three – well it looks most likely that the relationship will not go anywhere so you may as well get out now. Love vs Infatuation: So how do we know we are infatuated? The chemicals are serotonin and dopamine.